i didn’t know what to do with my boyfriend
i love him very much but i dont know if i should stay with him or leave
i think he treats me like sh*t most of the time
its just the little things he does and says that really hurt me
i don’t even know where to start
what concerns me the most is that
were both short on money at the moment, we are students that live in different towns about 20 miles apart from each other
he never comes to seem e really unless its me that will go to see him or i pay money into him account to come see me. Last night he said to me i don’t put any effort into this relationship. that really hurt me, because its me that goes to see him whenever im free and got money, which he never does. He never took me out before, and last week took him out to movies, for a meal, i even took him shopping etc,i paid for everything indeed because he apparently didn’t have any money, and then when he was checking his account i saw he had some money in it and he didn’t dmit to it. The only thing hes ever bought me was a sausage roll. I top up his money when i have money. the thing is i pay, buy him stuff and i ve never heard him say ‘thank you’. ever. Then again apparently he doesnt have any money, he couldnt come see me but 2 weeks ago he went to london to see some girl to go see ‘the mighty boosh live’ with her. But he didnt have 5 pounds to come see me?! he didnt even get back home till 3 am!
Another thing is, i spent over £100 for his christmas present, but he didnt even get me a card. i thought maybe he didnt have money, and now he got loads of money for xmas and he still is not willing to buy me even a xmas card, and thats all i want, and he talks about hows hes gonna spend it all on a tatoo and things for himself.
Hes got loads of female friends that he spends a lot of time with and gets mad at me if i get jealous. but whenever i want to see a male friend he gets mad at me and doesnt want to talk to me for some time. Then again everything he does wrong, if he hurts me or upsets me he never apologizes, he always uses it as a defence mechanism turns it round and uses it against me, and makes me feel guilty for the things that he has done wrong.
Another thing that upset me is that, last week he arranged to go to a concert with his female friend on the february the 14th 
its obviously valentines day, and i would like to spend it with him but it seems like he doesnt care about me at all.
As new years even is coming up i said i want to spend it with him but he keeps telling me to go out uptown or celebrate it with my friends, he blatently doesnt want me there.
About a month ago his grandad invited me to my bfs uncles wedding. which took place a week ago. My bf said i ve been invited 2 days after his grandad told him and i got a dress and everything, but then he didnt mention it since, so i thought maybe his uncle didnt want people he doesnt want there or something so i just kept quiet, but then the day after the wedding i found out he brought a different girl with him there, when his family clearly said ‘bring your girlfriend with you’ , how am i supposed to feel??!
He doesnt even cuddle me in bed at night, he isnt affectionate at all, like he was at first. I told him to tell me if he doesnt want to be with me but he says he loves me more than anything and he wants to be with me. i seriously feel like crap in this relationship but then again i love him dearly and i dont want to lose him, im afraid of being on my own again
theres loads of little things like i said in this question that really hurt me and i do not know what to do about them , if i try talk to him about it he denies it or gets mad a t me
hes also got a close female friend and i know form his best friend whois also my close friend that shes told him she loves him and she will do anything to have him ,even though she knew i was with him at the time. He said to her to stop it because if she carries on like this he will have to stop being friends with her because he has a gf he loves, but then again he talks to her all the time and meets up with her sometimes, not as often as before but he still does
what do you think, and what should i do???